Another year rolls by and it has me thinking about “resolutions” for my year to come. Immediately the typical resolutions come to mind like better eating habits, getting more exercise, practicing more patience. Having resolutions is great, I make them every year, as do many people, but do I really achieve them. The year flies by so fast – I can’t even remember what mine were last year so perhaps if I plan, put it in writing and refer back to it I will hold myself more accountable so here it goes…
- READ (like a book, with paper and stuff). One of my resolutions this year is to READ, like make time to dive into a book. With work, kids, marriage and keeping up with friends via social media all of the books I’ve owned have moved from shelf to shelf and I occasionally sweep off the dust. I’ve taken my kids to Barnes and Noble a few times and I feel a strong desire to find a good book and start diving in. My plan is to pick one evening a week and read a chapter. It might be a small start but I want to look forward to that time, make it my time and start reading again.
- EXERCISE. I have committed (slightly) to the FitBit as a way to help me monitor how much activity I was getting on the daily just doing my thing, but I wanted to be able to know how I can go above and beyond that. Something I have already started doing is walking more instead of driving. We moved to an area that is close to the center of town and a lot of our fav stores are close by so I load up the stroller with baby and the two older kiddos walk along and we try to walk now instead of drive. We did our grocery shopping with a wagon and I have to tell you it was pretty fun. We’re getting the hang of our routes and I appreciate the kids getting exercise with me.
- DRAMA BE GONE. Cleaning up your Facebook friends list and groups every once in a while is not a bad thing. Relationships change, people change, and it’s okay if a relationship doesn’t serve you or the other party anymore. I have to remind myself to let go of those relationships and move on. There is no shame in putting your self first and letting the drama go. You can internalize someone else’s negativity and it can bring you down and no one needs that. You have your own mess to deal with…right?
- WATER THAT SEED. The flip side of letting go of the toxic relationships is remembering to nurture the relationships you want to keep. Send a text, make a call, leave a voicemail, drop an email or a letter. Reach out to friends you haven’t talked to in a while or been able to connect with and if you can’t commit to a plan to get together have a chat on the phone. Reconnecting or just saying hi means a lot. I get so busy with life I think about people all the time but don’t always take the time to say something. I think I’ll do it tomorrow, or later or next week and those weeks turn into months. I want to focus on making sure my relationships are meaningful this year.
- YELL LESS, LAUGH MORE. Now that two of my kiddos are older, they are a lot more self sufficient and I feel like I don’t have to yell to get things done as much anymore. Not that I love yelling or that it’s even effective at all. I’m pretty sure my kids hear the Charlie Brown teacher’s voice anytime I start spouting off but I get the crazy mom ‘tude often thinking things have to be just so, or perfect or in order. I try to repeat back something a friend said to me once… just let them be kids, find a place for them to run around and freak out that is appropriate and let them just be. Some of the best advice. As parents, we get so freaked out by what other people are thinking, seeing, how our kids are behaving that we focus more on the behavior than just “being” in the moment and enjoying our kids. I want more of that, I want giggles and laughs. Those are the best times. Sharing pure, natural laughter with my children is one of the best gifts and I want to soak it up in 2018.